It may seem like I've been gone from the blogging world but in all honesty I've just been blogging elsewhere. But today I have something to say and no better place to say it then right here at the Drop.
To Women and Girls (and to guys if applicable too):
Putting yourself down or criticizing yourself does not show humility.
I think our culture has gotten so afraid of the appearance of vanity or narcissism that we have over-compensated.
As the song lyrics say: "You don't know you’re beautiful. That's what makes you beautiful." It's a great sentiment, of course, intended to mean that when a girl is beautiful and humble, it's a lovely combination. However most beautiful girls aren't blind. What if they do know it? Does that make them less beautiful? I digress.
If a girl knows she's beautiful, it can be a stunning thing! Confidence is a gorgeous glowing trait that should be embraced! After all, loving yourself is the key to feeling loved and giving love!
Nothing is more annoying to me then a beautiful girl putting herself down in some vain attempt to seem humble. When did it become attractive or acceptable for us to point out meager imperfections in ourselves?
It's an all too common scene: A girl with her friend points out how she hates her thighs and how her friend has better thighs. Her friend responds by first denying the claim (of course! She can't agree!), then pointing out some other (insignificant) thing about herself that she thinks is equally "not good enough" while complimenting her friend in a similar fashion.
They put each other down as they attempt to build each other up. It's nuts. Somehow they think they are doing each other a favor, showing humility, or even being cute. Girls! It's not cute.
Realistically these girls can see they are beautiful. It's the reason they put on make-up and do their hair for hours until they are satisfied in the morning. But something about that satisfaction makes them feel uncomfortable. They can't feel satisfied with themselves! Oh no! That would mean...!!!
Horrified to think they could be vain or narcissistic, they start looking for something to criticize.
Looking beautiful and knowing it doesn't make you vain. Vanity is exactly what you are doing when you compare yourself to someone else. It's looking at another person and trying to be better, or worse.
Humility is embracing that you are beautiful in your own unique beautiful way, and other people are too. It's seeing others' beauty and admiring or complimenting without jealousy. It's loving who you are inside and out, and treating others that way too. It's ok to love yourself!
So next time a friend puts herself down, don't join in, tell her to zip it and challenge her to find something positive to say about herself.
And next time someone gives you a compliment, just say thank you.